Time to Blow it up

Dear Friend,

There comes a point when we realize that what we’re doing is no longer working.

• Health goals stall.

• Business hits a revenue ceiling.

• Relationships repeat the same struggles.

Worst of all, the golf game collapses.

I’ve faced challenges in all of these, but it’s the personal relationships that weigh heaviest. Look around, and it’s rare these days to find a family untouched by struggle. The divorce rate speaks for itself.

It makes me wonder: Is it time to blow up the model on how we treat relationships? Because clearly, the way we’ve been doing it isn’t working.

In Hawaiian culture, there’s a simple practice called Ho‘oponopono.

Four lines:

• I’m sorry.

• Please forgive me.

• Thank you.

• I love you.

What if this became the starting point of conflict—not the resolution after years of pain?

For Crizen and me, it’s become clear that what we’re doing as parents isn’t working. So we’re rebuilding from the ground up. That means bringing in a professional third party—not because we’re broken, but because we want better tools. Call them a therapist, coach, or mentor. The title doesn’t matter. The purpose does: Perspective and skills to strengthen the family.

What surprised me is how common these struggles are when you actually start talking about them. And yet, most parents keep quiet. Silence breeds stigma. Stigma blocks progress.

So I’m breaking that silence here, in this small newsletter, and in conversations in the community.

For the past three years, Crizen and I have worked with a coach. That’s grown into a mental fitness coach, and now into new strategies for our team at BodyTime. We’re learning how to create real behavior change. Now, we’re extending that same system to our kids—and to ourselves as parents.

The goal is simple: Normalize talking with a third party. If our kids grow up seeing that as healthy, maybe they’ll carry it into adulthood as a strength instead of a stigma.

And honestly—what’s more important than that?

Let me know your thoughts: Too soft vs tough love, too early for therapy?

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Thanks,

Mike